All the time, I'll ask her or my dad for help with something, and she'll be like "NO I THINK YOU'RE OLD ENOUGH TO DO THAT BY YOURSELF".. and I'm like... "Yeah, I agree, and I'd do it by myself, except I DON'T KNOW HOW BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T TAUGHT ME."
My bathtub drain needs snaked, and I'd told my dad that I needed help with it earlier this week because I didn't know how to do it. The clog is getting worse and water pools at my feet when I shower, so I asked him about helping me again today. My mom overhears me asking him and she's like "No, I don't think so! I think that's something that YOU ought to do, not dad!"... And I'm like, "That's fine, but I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DO IT. I still need one of you to help me." I can't just be like "Oh! Okay! Why didn't I think to do it myself before?" And I'm not just asking them to do it because I want to give them something to do either. I know they're busy. I don't want to bother them. BUT I DON'T HAVE THE OPTION OF DOING IT MYSELF, SO I HAVE TO ASK. WHY DO YOU HAVE TO JUMP DOWN MY THROAT ABOUT SIMPLY ASKING FOR HELP.
My mom also expects me to be able to do new things after I've only done them once a long time ago. "I showed you how to make pumpkin pie two years ago! Surely you know how to make one yourself now!" Umm... no, mom. Not at all. It takes some practice and repetition to make that kind of information sink in.
Fucking hate how my parents wanted to do EVERYTHING for me while I was growing up, never teach me how to take care of things myself, then there's some imaginary point in time where they decide I'm "old enough" that I should know how to do so by now, and then treat me like I'm all on my own.
Fuck you. I'd love to learn if you didn't treat me like shit for trying.