- Collaboration: I want to share our ideas openly, understand each other's wants and thoughts and ideas, and make decisions through agreement and compromise.
- Respect and appreciation: For my partner to be able to recognize my strengths and recognize my personal value.
- Support and encouragement: To help me meet my goals, pick me up when I'm down. To be there for me when I'm weak or failing, and remind me of my strengths.
- To be wanted: I can be a sensual and sexual person, and I want to feel like my partner can't get enough of me. After a lifetime of feeling like no one else has wanted me, it feels so good when you show that you want me, that I turn you on, or that you want me more than anyone else.
- For you to know me: I want you to know everything about who I am. I want you to always want to know more about me. To notice my personal idiosyncrasies. To know my habits. To know what I like and dislike. To know, in general, what I want. To know what makes me happy and what makes me sad. To be able to tell when I'm happy and when I'm sad. To know how to communicate with me and to know why I act the way I do.
- Trust and honesty: I need to trust you, and you need to trust me. I highly value the ability to be open and honest with feelings, secrets, thoughts, and desires. Lies will poison a relationship.
- Positive thinking: Make our time together fun. See the good side of things. Point out how I succeed instead of making jokes about how I fail. Don't make a big deal out of small things. Trust that we can find a solution to any problems, and help me look for those solutions. Don't hold grudges. If it's in the past, leave it in the past.
- Budget conscious: I want a partner who knows how to save money for emergencies or higher-priority things. I don't like to buy a ton of stuff that will sit around unused and clutter a house. I want someone who can think of our combined income as "our" money instead of "my" money or "your" money. Bills and necessities come first; saving comes second; leftover spending money is shared between us fairly.
- Romance: I want someone who never stops trying to make me swoon. Small reminders and gestures to show you're thinking about me mean the world to me. I like to be swept off my feet.
- Common interests: We don't need to share all of our hobbies or interests, but I want to have some things we enjoy doing together.
- Adventure: I want to see the world, try new things, and meet new people. I want to be open minded and free to explore and learn, and I want my partner to be right there exploring and learning with me. I want to do and see new things together.
- Animals: I love animals, and they will probably always be part of my life. I don't think I could ever live with someone who hates animals - especially cats. If you love my animal(s) in the same way I love them, I will love you so much more because of it.
- Selflessness: Love me even when it isn't convenient for you. Make time for me. Put effort into our relationship and work to solve problems. Take my feelings into consideration. If I'm struggling with something, do what you can to help lighten my load. Try to make me smile or laugh. Go out of your way to do something for me without expecting anything in return. If you let me down in some way, own up to it and give something positive back to me.
- Common long-term/life goals: We need to be able to agree on where we would like to end up living. I need a partner who is okay with not having kids. I have goals that I want to meet during my life, and I need a partner who will help make sure I meet those goals instead of getting in the way of them. I want to be married to my partner once I have chosen them as my mate for life. I may need to move around a few times during my life, and my partner will need to be okay with that possibility.